Best email I’ve ever received—from a girl in Canada. “Since I first emailed you, I’ve been perusing your blog. If you’re in person anything like your page, you’re mythical to me. No one lives that horndog Casanova attitude. You’re the movie character I’d never meet, Cosmo mystery guy whiny chicks write about, rock star persona losers wish they were.” Flattery works; she’d fly for one-night adventure. Dating emails like this beat cocky American banter.

I consider her email fun flirting I’d positively respond to, so why do American girls serve up cocky banter bullshit to “flirt”? Learned long ago: if it doesn’t work, stop. Flattery gets this girl everywhere, despite million daily sex offers. Blog persona intrigues: mythical, unattainable. Dating power: be the fantasy women chase. Canadians direct; Americans play games. Respond to interest boldly. One email sparks adventure. Flirt style matters.

Another email: “Last time I wrote, crazy about guy, super nice, he treated poorly. You said leave—he’d sleep once, ghost. Slept after 3 months (he dated others). Later he fell in love, stopped. Together 11 months, great laughing. Asked marriage—he no, but move in. Traditional gal, no cohabiting unmarried. Told him if not what I want, separate. Frustrating! Put so much work; shouldn’t he marry to keep me?” Classic nice girl provider chase.

She threatens dating others for reaction, or nice marriage guy. Scared wasting years; tempted move in. Asks: will he marry? Anything make him want it? Instinct: nothing works, he won’t marry. Advice she wants: hope. Dating truth: nice overinvesting loses frame. Ultimatum fails—he didn’t chase marriage. Move on. Work earned trust, not commitment. Men sense desperation. Traditional values clash player vibe. Learn: value first, demands later. Or stay single venting.